Whoever one of you who’s feeling like you’re in a rut, like nothing is changing, this is for you.  Whoever one you who feels like you’re running on a treadmill that is going 80 miles per hour and despite all your efforts, you’re still feeling like you’re going nowhere?  I’m here to tell you that you are.  Even though you’re running now as soon as you get off this treadmill you’ll be stronger, healthier, and able to do so much more.  Whatever you’re nailing right now whether it be being a new parent, acing school, or working two jobs to save money, you’re going to get to where you need to go because you are putting in that effort. And let me clarify, nailing it, is simply doing your best.  I’m not talking about standards we’re talking about doing the best that you’re able to do, and you know what that is.  If you’re doing best your right now you’re going to get even better.  If you’re doing your best right now, something will come out of it.  Change is inevitable this is what makes life scary and exciting at the same time. Its that life is inconsistent.

Here’s a scenario for you, just to show you there are so many different ways to get out of a hole.  Imagine you fell into a ditch, eventually you’re going to get out of this ditch one way or another.  Change as we said  before is bound to happen.  It could rain a lot, so much that it floods rising you out of the ditch.  It could also rain just enough that the soil beneath you starts to soften and grow and grow until it’s no longer a ditch and again, you’re on a flat surface. Someone could walk past the ditch, notice that you’re stuck, and pull you up.  Or you don’t have to wait for anything or anyone to come along to save you.  You can build up the strength to climb up from this ditch yourself.  That’s what we do here, we rely majority of the time on our strength, inner and outer.  I encourage everyone on this page to be their own person. Not wait for miracles to happen yet still believe in them, and pray that one comes your way one day just don’t sit around waiting for it. I encourage you to be productive and positive.  

 I know that it’s a lot easier to preach this rather than do it.  Lets face it  some days we wake up and we don’t know what we’re doing with our life or how we ended up where we are. My situation for instance I am getting ready to graduate soon, God willing and it’s pretty much this era of uncertainty and doubting myself right now. It’s a scary transition to finally being that adult, closing the chapter of school from your life.  In past writing I have brought this up before and a lot of you could relate and even some of you mentioned going through a depression during these times of doubt.  We all start school around  five years of age until 21- 24, whatever age it is that you graduate.  And we have become accustomed to reaching these checkpoints; like middle school graduation, check, high school graduation check, college, check.  When you’re done with all this it’s like, okay now what?  What indicators am I going  that tell me I’m doing the right thing with my life or that I’m in the right track.  You know, there’s no diploma or pat on the back were going to get anymore for our accomplishments.  Even when you’re at the point when you’re nearing the end of college, which is me, thoughts like,  will the lifetime of school work I’ve put in land  me the dream job that I’m hoping for, fill your head.  Will I make something out of myself after spending my half of my life in the education system. It’s difficult and there’s a lot of emotions to go along with it.  This is where we can get low this is when we can feel like we’re not going anywhere,that it’s the same cycle over and over again.  And it doesn’t have to be about school or work these are the things that i’m referring to now because this the stage that I’m at. It’s funny how life is so short yet has so many different stages and phases that we all go through. It impossible that we’re going to be happy or contempt in each phase that we are n our life. So this is for everyone when I share with you how I battle this feeling of the black hole.  Drum roll…

 Step one: I am more aware that I am being negative. And obviously when you have a problem you have to be aware that there is a problem first in order to fix it. And that seems kind of obvious, but believe or not it needs to be said.  And yes negativity, being negative is a problem because it prevents us from growing. The mind is so powerful if you tell yourself I can’t do this or that then physically your body won’t be able to do it. If you tell your mind that you CAN, which is being positive, you will be able to. The mind is your tool, it is your weapon so use it wisely.  Be positive and you will be able to accomplish more than you ever thought you could. So that’s the first step you have to be aware that you’re not in the best of moods you have to be aware that there’s a little cloud over your head that’s draining all of your energy and motivation. Step two:  I analyze myself. I take a minute and I either mentally or actually write down what I’m doing in my life. I write down everything that I’m currently doing I analyze it and I say to myself am I doing enough? Meaning, am I doing everything that my body is allowing me to do mentally and physically and we all know our limits, so ask yourself this question realistically.  If the answer is yes I move on to step three: and accept that I’m doing all that I can and continue doing it. If not, then again I have to be honest with myself and add onto this list and imply into  my life and then  start accepting that now I’m doing everything that my body will allow me to do.  All you can do is your best and I Hope everyone realizes that and that’s what I tell myself in short when I’m feeling in the gutter.  And if I’m not doing my best then I start doing it I don’t wallow in lost time.  These are my simple steps to feeling better but of course commanding yourself to feel a certain way isn’t always going to work out.  Its okay to get a push its okay to go to a loved one to the people that have known you all your life and say hey, I need a hug, or hey I need some advice. These are just quick little boosters I give myself from time to time and they help for the most part.  And I would love to hear from you guys what you do when you’re low.  This page is all about interaction I shared what helps me so that it might inspire you do something similar when you’re feeling the same. But if you ever have anything to add feel free to do so, and comment down below.  That’s all I can share for now guys until next time stay true stay you stay beautiful.

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